Let’s talk about something that seems to be happening more and more in college recruiting.
Yes—sometimes coaches don’t respond to emails.
Or they start communication, suggest a call or visit, and then it becomes hard to actually get that scheduled.
So… why does this happen?
Good question.
Here are a few real reasons—no sugarcoating:
• Sometimes the coach simply chooses not to respond. Harsh, but true. Even realistic recruits don’t always get replies. Coaches receive a high volume of emails and have to prioritize how they spend their time.
• At times, coaches shift their focus away from recruiting altogether. Recruiting is emotionally, mentally, and physically demanding, and there are periods where they pause to focus on their current team or other responsibilities.
• Your emails may be saved in a folder to revisit later when recruiting ramps back up.
• They are genuinely busy and don’t get to every message.
• They may have other recruits further along in the process and are using “stall tactics” to keep you still interested but they aren’t ready to pursue any visits or offers with you at that time.
• They may have missed your first few emails—this is why following up matters. Try multiple attempts, different methods when appropriate, or use a trusted reference to help make contact.
• You may not be sending the right information in the emails, your resume may be missing important pieces of data, or you may have some red flags that have turned them off from recruiting you.
I know it’s frustrating—especially when you feel the school is a realistic option. And the truth is, despite doing everything right, you still may never get a response.
That doesn’t mean you failed.
At some point, it’s okay to:
• seek expert guidance
• lean on reliable references
• keep building your game and results
• and move on from programs that aren’t engaging
You can always circle back later after strong tournament performances and renewed momentum.
Recruiting isn’t personal—but it does require strategy, patience, and perspective.